I keep asking myself this question, do I rush to settle for the second best guy that’s in line or should I wait for the real McCoy? It’s a real challenge which is currently hanging over my head especially as I see friends currently making the best out of what the universe has dished to them! Essentially they have taken up what’s available to them and making the best out of the situation.
I am not assuming that life is all smooth sailing, for sure there are some challenges but I can only deal with challenges from a decision that I made from myself than challenges that I will go through because someone else wanted me to go a certain direction. Do you feel me?
So expectations of society vs the dream; which way should I go? It seems like a hard choice really isn’t it? But by far and knowing me as I do now, compared to the alternative, I really do feel more satisfied when I see a dream come to pass in my life. Some call it pure stubbornness, I call it a persistent streak which, most of the times is a long, straight, narrow and rocky road (usually more like a lone ranger kinda road) but one which also works very well for me! After all I came into this world alone and will leave alone! Deep but don’t blame me, I’m just trying to avoid a “I Give It A Year” kinda situation! Seen that movie yet?
Anyhoo, so this weekend, just to confirm that I am not that insane by taking this unpopular road, I got hold of Patti Stanger‘s Married in A Year DVD. You should see it if you’re single and really want to get that rock on your finger within a year!! I like that DVD, tardy bit old by now, but then Patti confirmed most of the stages that I have formulated, particularly for the first 6 months of the dating process. phew! I’m not crazy after all! For me, it is the 6-9 months stage that I tend to struggle with i.e the moving from just dating into the monogamous stage (where dating turns into a relationship) then to the negotiation stage which gets you to the altar! Sounds like a lot of work but anything worthwhile in the end is worth working for! Right?
So now armed with the double assurance from Ms Stanger’s coaching DVD, I’m going to revisit my strategy for months 3-6 again this week, which is where I meet a guy and start off the dating process. My other single friend and I are partying with another bunch of ‘singles’ who sort of meet our universe pool. Let’s see if I can strike an interesting conversation with a like-minded gentleman which will push me through to months 6-9!
Wish me luck