Are your desires being met?

When you think of the word ‘desire’, what is the first thing that comes to mind?

For some people, the first things that come to mind are things related to sex, material wealth and vanity. At a deeper level, your desires are related to your values and what matter most to you.

In the dictionary, the definition of ‘desire’ is to wish or long for; crave or want.

We all have desires that go far beyond the superficial things that may first come to mind such as to be loved, respected and valued.

Over-eating, spending beyond your means and generally doing anything excessively are indications that you are responding to your surface level desires when in fact there are deeper desires that are not being met.

For example, if every month you spend more than you earn and most of your money goes on buying shoes and clothes, you might want to stop and ask yourself what new clothes and shoes give you or what you are trying to get through having new items in your wardrobe. It could be that you want more respect or that you want to be loved or that you want to feel more confident. Ultimately, your excessive behaviour is an indication you have unmet desires.

“Desire is the starting point of all achievement, not a hope, not a wish, but a keen pulsating desire which transcends everything.” ~ Napoleon Hill

Your desires are driven by your core values so it is important that you take the time to identify your core values and then work out what you need to do to honour them.

One of the main reasons you experience unhappiness is because your current lifestyle does not match your desired lifestyle, and more significantly, you cannot see how you can move from one to the other. Lack of money, inspiration, motivation, qualifications, time and energy are just some of the reasons you struggle to move closer to your desired lifestyle. In addition to other setbacks and challenges in life, over time you begin to feel worn out and become resigned to the life you have, rather than the life you desire.

Despite how you may be feeling about life currently, it is still possible to create your desired life. It may take some time and it will definitely require effort on your part, but by getting clear about what you want and the actions you need to get you there, taking small consistent steps, you will eventually create a life you love.

Take the time to seriously consider what you want your life to look like in 5, 10, 15 and even 20 years and answer the following questions:

  • What do you want to be doing?
  • Who do you want to be doing it with?
  • Where do you want to be?
LeanneLindseyAuthor Bio:

I’m Leanne Lindsey, a career coach and founder of LL Coaching Ltd I work predominantly with professional women who are feeling dissatisfied and unfulfilled in their career. Women, who are still ambitious and want to be successful, however no longer enjoy their day job and would love to do something more meaningful.

It is my aim to reignite your passion and enthusiasm whilst inspiring and motivating you to create a career and life you love.

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