I’m going to let you into a little secret ladies. If you are meeting a guy for the first time and the destination has been suggested, most of the time he has financially planned the date so that he can foot the bill for you both.
He’ll have checked out the most expensive things on the menu and made sure that he has enough to cover this (3 courses plus additional £20 each for drinks). There are of course some exceptions to the rule and I have heard some shocking stories, including a time when a friend went on a date with a guy who ran out of money and made her pay for petrol on the drive home.
Women I’ve spoken with say that they don’t mind splitting the bill and some even said that it wouldn’t be a problem paying for the date as long as it wasn’t a sign of things to come. The guys I’ve spoken to as a majority do not mind paying for the first date but (yes there is always a but) it is nice for a woman to offer to split the bill as it shows good manners. Yes traditionally men would be expected to pay for the first date but that was when we had all the earning power. Thanks to the evolution of the workplace dinosaurs, women have increased spending power, therefore it is not unusual to split the bill nowadays.
Ladies have said that the whole bill thing can be a bit confusing, so I will break down for you, the rules of first date etiquette when picking up the tab or at least attempt to anyway.
The guys I’ve spoken to as a majority do not mind paying for the first date but (yes there is always a but) it is nice for a woman to offer to split the bill as it shows good manners.
If you have picked the venue for the first date and it is a pricey venue then it is only right that you are prepared to split the bill. If you have been taken to a place that is relatively cheap, (2 for £10 or £15 a head) I see nothing wrong in the man paying the bill. The most important thing is that you at least offer to split the bill. It’s very rare that your offer will be accepted. There is nothing worse than someone who looks away or makes an excuse to go to the toilet to freshen up when the bill is presented.
The most important thing is that you at least offer to split the bill.
I had such an experience and I wasn’t pleased. The girl, picked a very expensive restaurant and when the bill came it was very pricey as she had ordered the most expensive things on the menu, including taking the liberty of ordering a large bottle of champagne. She yawned when the bill came and started texting on her phone. I didn’t mind paying the bill but would have appreciated a, “Thank You”
Coming next week: “I earn more than most men, is this a problem?”
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