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… but what if you’re shy … or introvert or hate networking?

Here are some tips that work:

I started my networking group eight years ago with 30 women. Last month we had 87. Back then there were precious few women-only networks. Now there are dozens. So you have quite a choice.  And the best of them increases your list of valuable contacts, can lead to real business – and maybe even new friendships.

But if you are shy, an introvert or really dread networking there are a few hints which may make the process easier. And most of them are pretty easy to do.

When you enter a room, see that your body language is relaxed (even if you feel tense, fake it!). And smile.  So many women look anxious, as if someone is out to get them.  Common mistake. Everyone is there for the same reason – basically to help business but also to meet like-minded women, business professionals who know the life you lead. with all its problems, triumphs, foibles and mistakes. In other words we are all human.

In my network I have an ice breaker because I recognised that immediately on entering a room you need to know what to talk about after the introduction. The one my networkers use is: what can I do to help you and what can you do to help me? It works really well and many connections and business have evolved from this.

It’s always awkward joining a group so the best way, especially if you are shy, is to ask a question once you have the gist of the conversation. Sounds obvious but it’s an easy way to engage.

And not everyone is a talker so if you listen with interest (assuming it is sincere) you can have a good conversation without having to say much. By that time, you surely will have relaxed somewhat and can then take up the reins by discussing their opinion or your experience. Remember too that people like to hear their name so use it in the conversation.

I think the real goal of networking should be to help other people.  Of course it would be good if you were helped as well but that will come. Think of it as being at the start of developing a business relationship. And when you help them, they will be keen to help you right back. I’ve seen this happen many times.

The fact that you reached out and made contact with someone does not put them in your debt. No one is required to “pay you back.” Instead of approaching networking with the goal of gaining favours, try reaching out with curiosity.

The reason I like my network is the wide range of different professions who attend. I think it is crucial to grow your contacts outside of the usual areas. You will be more valuable to people that are in your immediate industry. With a broad network you can be the person that connects people across industries.

Building a good business relationship through networking is relatively easy.  A short email after the initial contact should be about information which is useful to them. Maybe you can introduce them to a helpful contact. Or alert them to a specific article, or TED talk in their area of expertise.  The more value you create, the more it will come back to you many times over. Focus all of your networking efforts on helping the people you contact.

Email is easy to send … and ignore. Don’t be afraid to pick up the phone, or arrange a coffee meeting. These communication channels are usually less crowded and more personal, which means that your message will be more memorable.

Shy, introvert or dread networking remember it’s more about  listening to what people say than saying the right things. Take the time to listen to people’s stories. You can only provide something of value to them if you listen to who they are and what they do. And if later they become friends, well that’s the value of a good networking circle.

Good luck.

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Lady Val is our Life of a Lady Blogger. Lady Val is also the founder of 'Lady Val's Professional Women's Network.' You can Reach Lady Val on: Life of a Lady Blog, Lady Val's Professional Women's Network

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