Is there a formula for finding love?

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If only love were as straightforward as other areas of our lives.

When we were younger, we knew we had to study hard at school to win a place at university.

At uni, we knew we had to get a good degree if we wanted to follow our dream career so we put in the hours (alongside sports and socialising).

In our professional lives, we know we have to study for qualifications or work for promotions in order to advance. We have to do the work. We have to tick the relevant boxes.

But love isn’t so simple. It’s not just a case of doing A in order to get B. In love, there are twists and turns. There’s heartache, breakups and periods of confusion when we haven’t got a clue how to meet someone or how to make a relationship work.

When it comes to our romantic lives, we can’t just take a course or a series of steps and end up with a healthy, loving relationship with a wonderful partner by the end of it.

Or can we?

In love, there are no magic bullets or quick fixes but what if there were a way to lay the solid foundations we need to form a healthy and loving relationship?

What if there were a way to connect to our intuition so we make good choices and to build our self-esteem and self-worth so we always act in our best interests?

What if there were a way to set healthy boundaries for ourselves and others so we can go on dates, safe in the knowledge that we’ll leave when we want to leave and will only open our hearts and share our bodies if we know we can trust the other person?

What if there were a way to create a full, happy life so that we no longer need a partner to feel complete (which is often when one comes along)?

I believe there is a way – because it’s worked for me. I went from love stuck to love struck. I took a series of steps and went on an inner journey and ended up engaged to a beautiful man.

I write about these steps in my book and I guide women through them on my How to Fall in Love course, which begins today if you’d like to join us.

The course is for single women, or women in a relationship they’re unsure about, who want to build their self-esteem and self-worth, learn to act in their best interests, connect to their intuition and create wonderful, full lives so they don’t have a deep need for a relationship and are therefore attractive to others.

If this sounds of interest, watch this video and see if it could be for you. My goal is to create a safe, supportive, nurturing environment in which we can work through any blocks to love.

If the course isn’t for you right now, you can still help yourself. You can pause, slow down and connect to yourself on a deep level, through mindfulness or another form of meditation. Don’t have time? Try meditating in the shower.

You can build your self-esteem and self-worth through daily acts of self-love and self-care. You can create a wonderful life by identifying your goals and dreams and taking steps towards them. You can learn to act in your best interests, to say Yes when you mean Yes and No when you mean No. You can find courage and support to live your best life.

If you’d like help with any of the above, why not join my free Facebook community, Being Real, Becoming Whole, where I help women like you create their best lives.

As I wrote in a blog post on Friday called Seize the Day and as you’ll know as well as me, life is short. So take care of yourself, invest in yourself, create your best life and do your inner work in order to find love, if that is your heart’s desire.

Katherine Baldwin
About the author

Katherine Baldwin is our Maybe No Baby Blogger. She is a writer, storyteller, coach and speaker. As a coach, Katherine specialises in helping professional women navigate the world of dating and relationships and fall in love. She also helps men and women follow their passion and transition into more wholehearted, fulfilling lives. Katherine is writing a book about her journey from 40 to 45, a period during which she came to terms with being 40, single and childless, overcame her fear of commitment and her perfectionism and learned to fall in love. You can find out more about her work at, read her blog at and follow her on Twitter @From40WithLove

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