Are you thinking about joining the online dating world? You are not alone. It’s one of the most popular ways of finding romance.
If you are thinking about joining the online dating world, there are some tips for getting the most out of your experience. Find below some of the things we here at Cupid.com believe are useful for our members to beware of, so as to be able to enjoy online dating to the full.
It Takes Time
You can “meet” someone from the comfort of your own home, wearing your PJs and it can happen at 4am in the morning or 4pm in the afternoon. Online dating is definitely the most time-saving way of meeting new people. At your fingertips you have thousands, maybe even millions, of members. However, just because you find someone attractive when speaking to them online, doesn’t mean you will have a spark in real life. And even if you have a spark, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will go onto being in a relationship together. Therefore, be prepared that it can take a while to find your perfect match.
It’s important to make a note of this, so that your exceptions are not disappointing you. It’s not a failure if the first, second or 10th person you meet is not the one for you. Even if you meet someone you don’t hit it off with, you can become friends with them, or you might even end up doing business with them. And if you find yourself in an awkward situation, where you realize you simply can’t connect with the person in real life, allow yourself to laugh at it. Don’t take it too seriously. Enjoy the journey of dating and meeting new people. It’s an excellent way to practice your people skills, socialize, and just have a good time having a drink with someone.
The First Date
When meeting someone for the first time, keep it fairly casual. Meet up in a coffee shop, or in a bar, for a quick drink. Make sure you don’t have to spend the entire day or evening with them. Also, make sure it’s a public place. You don’t really know this person yet, even if you have already tweeted them, Facebooked them, e-mailed them and video chatted with them. Meet someone at least 2 to 5 times in public as it takes time to truly get to know someone.
Whether you meet someone online or at the local pub, when going on a date always let someone know where you are. Also tell them you will text them at a certain hour and if you don’t, have them call you. Give them the name of the person you’re seeing as well.
Many people go into online dating with a list. They have a list of qualities they want their new partner to have. Dating is about connection though and you might find that you have an incredible connection with someone who, say, doesn’t have to happen to live where you wanted them to live, or have the career you wanted them to have. They may have green eyes instead of blue eyes. Be open. Know your deal breakers (especially know that if someone isn’t making you feel good about yourself, they’re not worth it no matter how attracted you are to them), but be open to meeting new people and truly discovering them for who they are.
Don’t Judge Everything on the First Date
We tend to make quick decisions. This is sometimes not in our favor. When you meet someone for the first time, chances are you’re both battling with the concept of who you thought you were and who you really are. It can feel a bit awkward at first. Also, you’re probably both a bit nervous. So before you disregard someone, meet them for a second date. Even if you meet someone and find them absolutely fantastic, go with them on a few more dates, before you make up your mind as attraction sometimes is only skin deep.
Your Online Profile
It’s important to include at least three recent pictures, of which one is a headshot, on your profile. Also, it’s important not to lie. People are looking to falling in love with someone and they’re not looking to fall in love with a lie, but with a real person.
Keep your profile short and sweet. Tell enough to make someone curious, but don’t give them your whole life story. Please also avoid talking about the things you don’t want in a relationship, or what you hate about your ex. Rather talk about the things you would want. A little bit of humor drizzled in there is great as well. If you aren’t a great writer, have two or three friends have a look at your profile before you post it. It’s always good to get a couple of different opinions. Keep in mind to beware of sarcasm as well. Whereas it can be really funny, I can also get really negative. Sarcasm is great, but don’t make your whole profile sarcastic.
Please don’t give out any personal details too early, including work, home and credit card. You can do a lot of research online about a person just these days, but you still never know. Rather safe than sorry.
If you hit a roadblock in your online dating journey, don’t despair. Rather have a look through the success stories. There are many. Very many. It’s the second most popular way of finding a partner these days. Keep going. It might take time, but have fun along the way and enjoy the journey on Cupid.com!
Cupid.com: Sharon Nicholas and Chris Willetts
Sharon: I chose this site as the name Cupid caught my attention. My first date with Chris was at the beach. After we met in the morning Chris texted me and said he didn’t mean to push his luck, but would I like to meet up later after work for a walk? It was an amazing walk…and we went from strength to strength ever since. We both agree that we aren’t just a couple but we are best friends and love sharing every moment with each other.