Go off and do something else instead

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The expression “busy doing something else” is often where find your ideas and inspiration. It gives you the sense of being absorbed, concentrating, focused – putting other thoughts aside. It’s something to be encouraged, especially when you’re scratching your head looking for the answer to a tricky issue or situation. Go off and do – or absorb yourself – in something else. It’s often where the answer lies.

Sometimes the full-on focus we give to something means we miss some of the subtleties of what’s actually happening. I hear people saying things like “I feel like I’m banging my head against a brick wall”, “I can’t stop thinking about ABC” or “I can’t leave it until I’ve sorted it, I’m like a dog with a bone”. Often that’s exactly the problem.

When you give yourself permission to leave it – and I do mean give yourself permission – because it’s an active decision (rather than a sign of defeat) – by saying “OK, let’s park this for now, I’m going to go off and do something else” is often where the ‘aha’ moment is waiting for you.

Buy yourself time and take yourself away from the thinking, just for a while. You know your deadlines but it’s the action of parking it and staying open to what comes up in your thinking whilst you’re otherwise engaged.

Let me explain.

I’ve water-skied for years and love it – the speed, sensation, the ‘hey I might fall off’ feeling. What I realise though, is how many similarities and insights there are when you compare improving ‘something else’ with building and expanding your business or career.

Look at these 5 lessons to learn about career success from being busy waterskiing:

  1. Keep flexible and relaxed. There are forces at work, which you can’t see, and they’ll help you. You don’t have to force it; go with where you’re being pulled.Stay loose.
  2. Expect that there will be bumps in the waterand the current can pull you off course but keep your eyes on the water. Stop watching and worrying about the bumps; watch the water where you’re heading instead.
  3. Let go when you have to.Sometimes it’s best to just let go, have a face full of water for a moment and then get up again and get back on. Hanging on too tightly doesn’t do much for your style or your peace of mind.
  4. Listen to the advice of your mentor.Other people can often see what you can’t when you’re in action. It might be just a simple tweak that’s too close to the end of your nose for you to see it. Study and listen for what the experts do and then model it; make it a style of your own.
  5. Rest up and regroup.Remember it’s about the ride too and it’s more of a marathon than a sprint. Take breaks, limber up and enjoy the scenery along the way.

My ski instructor uses a great expression, which is helpful to remember whilst you’re busy doing something else “keep your legs loose, your tush in and reeeelaaaax”.

To enjoy the creative ways your mind works when you’re busy doing something else, ask yourself these questions to help you with your decision:

  1. What is it that concerns me most about this decision?
  2. How will I handle that and what skills will I need to bring into the mix to handle this?
  3. What lessons are there for me to useand then share with my colleagues, friends or clients, which could help the situation we’re scratching our heads with?

Let’s make it your time to shine, in your own way. When would now be a better time to go for Promotion, Recognition and Rewards?

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Kay White
About the author

Kay White is our Show Up & Sparkle blogger. Known as the Savvy & Influential Communication Expert for Ambitious Women in Business, Kay shows professional women how to attract promotion, recognition and rewards at work without feeling they have to ’sell their soul. Kay shows her clients, who are corporate career women at all different stages of their careers, how to naturally attract more income and opportunity all while being true to themselves. Combining strategic moves with influencing skills plus compelling and assertive language and powerful mindsets, Kay draws on her own 20+ years corporate career in the very male-dominated world of London insurance broking. She started at 18 as a Secretary and left as a Director to start her own business. Hosting an annual 3-day Event for corporate women “Show Up; Sparkle & Be Heard LIVE” Kay encourages and shows women how to be the best, most valuable version of themselves. Kay is author of the Number 1 Best-Seller “The A to Z of Being Understood” and you can connect and find out more from Kay at : www.kaywhite.com.

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