“If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” – Paulo Coelho
Last time I introduced you to the Cycle of Change, a tool that can help us to navigate the choppy waters of change by bringing awareness to the typical thoughts, feelings, emotions and actions that occur at each stage of the cycle. We touched upon how increasing our awareness of these phases can significantly alter our ability to manage our moods, personal experiences and responses to change.
Last time we talked about the “Shuffle” phase; a period of detachment, reflection and finding new direction. This week, we will explore the Deal phase. I love this quote which neatly expresses the moment you know that you have been delivered into the deal phase:
“And suddenly you know: it is time to start something new and trust the magic of new beginnings.” – Meister Eckhart
The “Deal” phase often happens upon you suddenly; like emerging from a dream and realising that it’s time to take action. The deal phase is a time for experimenting, training and stepping out into the world to connect; a new direction or motivation is found and we are ready to explore and experience the next phase in our lives.
Typically it is a time when someone is starting a new business, trying out a new job or career path, or venturing back into the dating world after a period of healing after a break up. As someone who is currently finalising one business venture with the intention of focusing full time on another entrepreneurial endeavour, my true passion, this is exactly where I find myself right now.
In the early stages it’s not unusual for people to approach this period tentatively, taking a “one step at a time” mentality, and this is natural as one finds their feet in a new or unfamiliar environment. The typical thought patterns might be: “Am I really doing this? Am I ready? Have I bitten off more than I can chew?” and consistently assessing the landscape for clarity, process and support. Whilst the primary focus is on experimentation, it is often accompanied by continued reassessment and evaluation so that the individual can get their “ducks in a row”, and make something happen (ah, that explains my obsessive number crunching then!).
That said, even in the early stages there is more confidence than in the Shuffle phase, and the prevailing emotion is one of excitement and anticipation as life takes on the perspective of a fresh new opportunity. As time moves on, this confidence then builds.
If you, like me, are currently in this stage of the Cycle of Change, then to recap, you might be experiencing some of the following thoughts, feelings and behaviours:
- Turning outwards to take action;
- Looking for clarity, process and support;
- One step at a time mentality;
- Excitement and anticipation;
- Fear of failure (or success).
If this is you, you will first want to get clear on your vision and values so that you can understand where you are going and why you are doing what you’re doing. The truth is, you’re going to need to reconnect to your passion and purpose at times throughout your new journey, so finding ways to keep it top of mind will be important. After that, planning and prioritising are the order of the day. As long as you follow through on what you’re intending to do, you’ll be in good shape to enter the next phase of the cycle – Playing the Game.
Next time we will explore the Playing the Game phase, but in the meantime, if you’re interested to learn more about how to cultivate your self-awareness and increase your level of consciousness through conscious education or develop a career in self-mastery and personal development, join our free A-Z Roadmap to Becoming a Coach webinar at http://www.ipeccoaching.com//events-and-seminars.aspx .