New Guy: Flex Like Fibre?

Or maybe don’t bother?

In these times where the world moves at a very very  fast pace and schedules get changed at the very last minute, how flexible  or incorruptibly stubborn can you be when it comes to moving things around for  a date to happen. Let’s just say, hypothetically, you get asked out by a very likeable option from your universe selection, you met him on a Saturday, he asks you out on the Sunday,  you counter offer his request for  a date and suggest the week after which you both swoon about  on Whatsapp for a full week . A day before your rescheduled date, he calls to move the date to the next day and you wonder if he’s on a game?  The question is do you go with the flow and agree to the date for the next day or do you reschedule to the week after?

One option screams ‘games’ which is a good thing, spices things up,  and the other appears  damn casual.

Cupcakes from Bea's of Bloomsbury

Cupcakes from Bea’s of Bloomsbury

You may guessed by the intro above that I have met another potential, very early stages and we’re going through the ‘chess’ moves right now. He enthusiastically asked, I pushed to the next week, and he moves to the next day or if I like, the weekend. My choice. Thing is, my weekends are super swamped! I’m busy! I’m living a 4-D (4 Dimensional) life right now, chasing my dreams and would rather not do the weekends, at least at this stage.

So here’s what I’m tempted to do right now. I’m going to confirm date for new recommended day, discount the fact that he may see it as a date, but just see it as a Friday catch up with a guy who could end up to be a potential and then see if there’s any real attraction there or sensible solid basics; then and only then,  think about potentially dating him! After all, I’ve only met him once, and the truth is he may not (or he may actually) create a spark when I see him again and so for now, I think I’m gonna go with the other option – appear casual but for now, I may just well go and enjoy ‘them’ cupcakes from Bea’s


About the author was created to test out a new phenomenon!! We hear of countless stories where women (and many women around the world) go on a date, maybe once or twice…. get to know the guy and then as soon as she makes up her mind that this is the guy that she would like to have in her life… the guy suddenly turns cold towards her!!! Sounds familiar? What happened? How did this nice guy who was pursuing you countlessly suddenly turned cold the moment you started to show an interest in him? Why did he change his attitude? Why did he stopped calling, stopped texting, cancelled the date (with an excuse— I’m sick! and never called back)

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