People will fall in love with you!

Sorry: this isn’t the Superstar Communicator’s successful dating book. Rather some RED HOT TIPS on how to engage with other people. Then they’ll love you.

red heartPeople love being listened to: become a great active listener. Respond to what they are saying with non-verbal movements (like nodding) or non-verbal sounds to confirm you agree with them. Have great eye contact and concentrate on them rather than looking at your mobile.

Ask people for their help or opinions: nothing is more flattering than being asked; it gives that person confidence in themselves, their ability and their expertise.

Give the person your full attention when you are speaking to them: even if you are on the telephone to them, there is nothing more distracting than the person on the other end of the phone audibly typing on their computer, making a cup of tea etc. But face to face it’s even worse.

Mirror their body language: When you watch loving couples they mirror each other’s movement; they walk in time; no doubt their heartbeats are in synch. Through mirroring the other person’s body language, you develop a connection. When you are in a conversation with someone, try copying their body language; you’ll be amazed at how easy it is to engage with the other person!

Flatter them: everyone loves being flattered and unless they are very sad or have an evil agenda (joke!) they are more likely to engage with you. I have watched people “suck up” to key people in organisations – horrified, but now I realise they were flattering key people, to their advantage. They were noticed by key people and they ensured key people fell in love with them. Try it: you’d be amazed at how you can change your presence in an organisation. But remember not to be manipulative!


The Executive Voice Coach.

About the author

Susan Heaton Wright is a former opera singer who works with successful individuals and teams to make an impact with their voices and physical presence. Using her experience in using the voice and performing on stage, she works with people to improve their performances in a range of business situations; from meeting skills and on the telephone, to public speaking, presentations and appearing on the media.

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