We had a really good first date but I never heard from him. Why? | Men Uncovered Blog

AngrywomenThis is something I hear on a very regular basis and I hate to be the bearer of bad news.

You had a good time and you enjoyed yourself, however that doesn’t mean he necessarily did. There are many different reasons that you wouldn’t have heard from him, but it’s important that you don’t beat yourself up as you’re not to blame.

although you enjoyed yourself, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the other person had as much fun as you did. This doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you, he just didn’t think that you were compatible.

  1. If you met through a dating website, it’s very likely that he has scheduled dates with lots of other girls and had more fun with one of them than he did with you. Internet dating is brilliant because it allows us to pick through our prospective partners from the comfort of our home. It also allows us to also do it on the move, either on our mobiles and tablets. Tinder or Match, which seem to be the most popular of the two, seem to be addictive. I have witnessed many people even checking their matches in the cinema. There is too much choice in the buffet and sometimes you are one of many options.

Yes you might both have looked like a synchronised diving tandem on the table but it sadly means nothing.

  1. He might be someone who lacks the courage (or decency, depending on your point of view) to tell you that he isn’t romantically interested in you. You shouldn’t take it to heart as he is the one who’s unable to communicate with you the way an adult should. If it really bothers you, perhaps it’s worth sending them a message asking if he would like to see you again, if you haven’t heard back then assume he doesn’t. That way at least you know he doesn’t want to see you. It means that you can move on and stop badgering your friends with, “will he, won’t he?” conversations. Friends are great but they get bored after a while especially if you go over things continuously or over analyse, such as, “Well he did mirror my gestures, so that means we do have something in common, right?” Yes you might both have looked like a synchronised diving tandem on the table but it sadly means nothing.

So, if he still hasn’t committed to a firm date, move on and don’t waste your time especially if he seems to keep popping up on Tinder.

  1. If he responds to your messages a few days later, saying that he was “busy” at work, but will be in touch soon, take the lead and ask when. People take their phones to the toilet nowadays and responding to a text only requires a few seconds of tapping. The longest part of the process is knowing how many kisses to put at the end, which most guys debate in their head (xx, that’s ok, Xx, not sure if they’ll think I can’t type, xxxxxxx, maybe a bit much, oh hell I’ll just sign off with x and play it cool). So, if he still hasn’t committed to a firm date, move on and don’t waste your time especially if he seems to keep popping up on Tinder.
  1. In conclusion, although you enjoyed yourself, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the other person had as much fun as you did. This doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you, he just didn’t think that you were compatible. Consider yourself lucky if you don’t see each other again, as at least you didn’t waste your time meeting up again and again, only to be let down.
Coming next week, “He Cheated on me, should I take him back?”

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Munir Bello is our resident male dating blogger: ‘Men Uncovered Blog’. Each week he will answer the most common questions posed by women about men. Munir Bello is the Author of The Break Up Recipe, A 5 star rated romantic comedy about break ups and relationships from a mans point of view, available on Amazon as a download or paperback. . Follow Munir on Twitter @munirbello1983 or www.facebook.com/thebreakuprecipe

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