This Valentine’s day why not show your love?
The sharing, caring, deep affection, that real feeling of closeness regardless of whether it is for a husband, wife, lover, friend or child. Being able to share how much you care for another person helps strengthen the bond and connection and makes it even more precious. You don’t have to treat it just as a lover’s day, why not treat it as a special day to show love to all your family, colleagues and friends.
There is no requirement to spend copious amounts of money either. Sometimes the smallest and simplest gift can be the most precious.
- How do you feel about love?
- Have you been having a tough time of late with a particular person?
- Have you questioned how do I talk to them?
- Why not explore the feelings you have for those closest in your life?
It doesn’t matter whether it is a friend or a partner or lover or a child the important fact is how you feel about them and more importantly communicating that. When was the last time you told that special someone, a friend or lover that you love them and truly meant it!
For those who are not close by allow yourself to daydream a little and imagine they are with you, give them an energetic imaginary hug, tell them how you feel and allow yourself to feel better about the process when you do have the chance to talk in person.
Why not give and receive the unconditional tenderness of love? Allow yourself to be more open will help your relationship become stronger and more loving. Such heartfelt connection is there to help us understand more about ourselves and our relationships with others so make sure you don’t dismiss those feelings.
‘Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage’
– Lao Tzu
It is important to truly understand the difference between conditional or unconditional love.
This tends to be perceived as love that is only given depending on x, y and z. If you do this for me I will love you. It might be a partner or a lover or in fact it can just as easy be a child who says “If you buy me a new iPhone Mummy I will always love you”. Love can be seen as a bargaining tool. There is always a condition and an ‘if’ in this equation.
In essence this is love with zero conditions. This love that has no limits or boundaries, it doesn’t dictate or possess, it is freely given without any expectations of receiving in return.
Having recently read Dr. Gary Chapman’s book called ‘The five love languages’ I can highly recommend it, whether you are exploring your current relationship with your husband or wife, or your partner and even if you are single. He has an enlightening way of making you think and you might even end up surprised by your own needs in a relationship.
He defines the five love languages as:
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Receiving gifts
- Acts of service
- Physical touch
And explains how we can meet each other’s deep emotional need to feel loved. In addition he has also written one for children and for teenagers.
The Single Friend
And finally I implore you to remember your single friends on Valentine’s Day, most of all they need your love and support. Help inspire them to love themselves more, to find some downtime and me time. To allow a wonderful partner into their lives if that is what they wish. It is important to remember that the best relationships start when you are not looking, the love of your life will walk in that door with a wonderful smile on their face because they are looking at you but most of all you must love yourself enough first.
Allow yourself to be a magnet for love!
Always smile because you never know who is falling in love with you!
If you feel you need some guidance then feel free to get in touch?
Twitter: @ShirleyCalmred & @CalmredLtd