I don’t know about you but as much as I would like to feel fluttered when a guy reinforces his interests in speaking to me, sometimes I do feel some of the advances go beyond rude! I mean, yes I appreciate that one would feel superbly drawn to my fabulousness but coming out too strong is a huge turn off! Yes I am attractive, and apparently seductive, and that’s Life! But please lay it off, would you?!!!
On the the other hand, research (and yes scientific research) have proved time and time again that men act on the physical way before they look at the other qualities in a woman. And no this is not to mean or even say that men are shallow because the reality it that they’re not, at least some of them! It is just the way their wired! To put it another way, they think sex! sex! sex! all the time! And frankly in the large scheme of things, that’s not a bad thing really. Think about it, if you were to be with a man who is not thinking about tearing your clothes off all the time, then girl, you should be super worried! Seriously
Would he still care and cherish you or would he jump off to the other girl the second after?
The problem however occurs during the dating phase, especially in the first 90 days of your good life together. Because in as much as you would like for him to tear your clothes off and ravage you in the most sensual way possible the first time that you see him, you’re also worried about the aftermath, the emotional aspects of it all. Would he still care and cherish you or would he jump off to the other girl the second after? You worry if chances of there ever been a relationship is diminished after your first rendevous as you know so little about him aside from the aesthetics. You worry if it was ever so soon to jump into things? You worry and worry! You simply worry. But maybe you don’t. Because for some the story ends well (with a lot of back and forths..); and for some it ends in pure hell! So what do you do, knowing very well that nothing is so certain in life?
We can’t really change the way men are wired nor can men change how women need the emotional side resolved before ravaging off the spoils … That’s just life! We just have to learn to make the right choices, gauge the situation and take a chance! And if we abide by the 90day rule, still keep things sexy. Better to be safe than sorry!
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