We all want to win. Winning is fun.
You get ribbons, people notice you and recognize your name. But how do people actually get there? Do you need parents with a lot of money? Amazing looks? What is it that really separates the wheat from the chaff so to speak?
Well, many lottery winners go broke so it is not just about the money. Many attractive people have tough lives and problems – just open a gossip magazine for evidence. At times, getting ahead just feels impossible.
What does winning mean to you?
The first thing everyone has to do in life is to understand what winning is about for you.
We all know the famous line in Alice in Wonderland where Alice is asking for directions. She is not sure which way to go and it becomes clear that getting directions doesn’t matter because she has no idea what she wants and where she wants to end up.
A lot of us are like that. You dream of being a famous actress but party rather than going to auditions. You admire women in nice suits but won’t retrain for a higher paying job. You’re looking for a nice man but spend all of your time around couples rather
than single friends. It is an easy trap to fall into. We’ve all probably been there at some point. But what do you do about it?
Get going in the right direction
I heard something once and I definitely think it rings true to some extent. At the talk I attended, the speaker highlighted that most of us are the sum of the last five book we’ve read and the five people that we spend the most time with. If we never read any books and spend time with those who drag us away from our goals, we will never want to get where we want to go.
Many of us never think about what we want out of life. Coasting is easy. We coast through school, boring jobs and dead-end relationships. There is another path. Right now, take out a pen and paper. What are some things you have been hoping to do?
Is it travel? Then buy (or borrow) travel guides or histories of other countries and go to a talk by an explorer. You want a promotion? Lots of women out there read ‘Lean In’ and biographies of successful women and then join women’s networking groups.
This is a three-part series. Next time, I will share my recommendations on some of the books you might want to read to get your career and life moving in a new direction.
About the author
Joy Adams is a blogger and one of WATCs 2015 Rising Stars. She is a British-American businesswoman who has worked in both the public and private sectors in the US and UK. Joy currently serves on the Advisory Board for Vital Voices Europe, an organization dedicated to supporting and developing women leaders. She also writes a lifestyle blog for budding philanthropists and art collectors at Luxeher.com.
The Workher blog is all about taking your work life to the next level with practical tips and details on the latest news about pay, progression, and opportunities.