Every decent guy who asks a girl properly out (not for lunch or afternoon tea) wants sex. Period! We will say that ladies should get really worried, we mean, run a mile away from a guy who tells you that he’s taking it slowly or worst yet, trying to discover what he wants! Truth is, if he says that, he’s probably a player, walks on the other side of the road (if you know what I mean) or just plainly is a real-time waster! So if a guy picks up the courage to ask you out, the minimum should be that he wants to have sex with you. Spending time with you because you seem like interesting company, laughing at your jokes or even potentially considering you for marriage should all come in addition, never instead of wanting sex! (of course, asking for friendship only is valid and should neither offend you nor mean that the guy finds you ugly – but then he should invite you for coffee & cake, not beef steaks – testing on the fly how horny he gets with you after a bottle of Argentinian red wine).
But here’s comes the holy grail!
Just because the guy wants to have sex, doesn’t mean you have to give it away, you ladies control the pace! You don’t use that notion to control the guy, naah, because then you’re crossing into the psycho camp. But the fact of the matter is that if we do consider you for something more serious, we will definitely not blame your for taking your time before you say yes! In fact, we might (depending on the full picture of course) even value you more for that. But it doesn’t mean that we would stop trying to get you into that state! That will never happen because we are not designed that way.
Here’s another cue to help you sift the wheat from the chaff. Losers will immediately reject you when you say no! Because a loser hasn’t got any plans with you anyway and he doesn’t have a plan for himself either. He’s opportunistic, he sees a decent chick like you who looks good and thinks he can get a piece of you in his current state because you don’t see him for who he really is, in your current state! Remember he’s a loser, so conscience doesn’t mean a thing to him.
So here’s the bottom line – at the end of the day, we guys want sex 24/7 if we can and that is the ugly truth if you want to call it that way; but real responsible men would also like to earn the privilege and enjoy life with you (if they happen to like you enough, not if you give in fast enough).
For us, dating you is not all about sex.
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