Thinking About Adoption? Family Futures are here to help

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Don’t believe everything you hear & don’t rule yourself out just yet…

We know there are a lot of perceived barriers and myths around adoption; it’s not surprising, as it seems that no matter who you talk to, there is always ‘someone who knows someone’ who had a bad experience, but in many cases if you delve deeper that ‘someone’ was in fact a friend five times removed, so you get a lot of Chinese whispers along the way!

At Family Futures, we’ve been providing comprehensive support for adoptive parents and children for almost 20 years, so we understand that it is one of the biggest and most life changing decisions you’ll ever make. That’s why we’d like to share some of the key information to help alleviate some of the concerns we think you may have, so you can weigh up whether adopting a child is the right route for you in becoming a parent.

Adopting as a single person

If you are single and concerned that you either won’t be considered for adoption or worried you just can’t do something this big on your own, fear not. Firstly, being single does not rule you out, in fact in our experience single female adopters can be better for some adopted children; particularly those who have suffered neglect or abuse by a birth father or stepfather. Also, in the case of children who have suffered trauma, the more one on one attention you can devote to giving that child can also be extremely beneficial.

In terms of being worried about coping on your own; remember you may be single but we’d expect you to have a strong network of friends and family alongside us as your adoption & adoption support agency, we are dedicated to providing the right level of support exactly when you need it.

adoptionAdopting as a same sex couple

We hear lots of stories of potential adopters who are put off by the fact they fear being treated differently if they are part of a same sex couple, or worried they can’t offer the stereotypical male and female role model that they think children may need.   Again, in our experience of working with LGBT people, we believe that same-sex parents can make just as good parents as anyone, in fact we have found that the resilience and strength of character often associated with Gay and Lesbian people can be a real asset in helping adopted children come to terms with some of their own problems.

Getting time off work

In April this year changes were made to legislation around Adoption Pay & Leave, so now adopters have exactly the same rights as birth parents.   Check out the official information at the government website: https://www.gov.uk/adoption-pay-leave/overview, but also discuss with your companies’ HR representative in terms of understanding your entitlement for leave in order to attend sessions pre the arrival of your child.

Financial support

Unlike Fostering, you are not ‘paid’ to look after a child that you adopt, in adopting a child you are assuming legal parental responsibility and making a long-term commitment to becoming that child’s new parent(s). That said, if you are currently able to financially support yourself and can prove your income covers all of your monthly outgoings, then there may be access to additional financial support once you have adopted your child; of course your eligibility to funding would be dependent on a number of factors and as your adoption agency we would be able to help you explore that.

Eligibility criteria

We welcome people from all walks of life to come and talk to us about adoption, but there are some factors that need to be met in order for your application to be considered, these are:

  • Over 21 years old
  • Have a spare room in your home
  • Be a permanent resident in the UK
  • If choosing Family Futures as your adoption agency, we would recommend you living no more than a one hour drive from our office in Islington.

We hope you have found this information useful, there are plenty of resources to help further, including our own website: www.familyfutures.co.uk and we’d also recommend you visit www.first4adoption.co.uk who are a dedicated information service for people interested in adopting a child in England, their information is very clear and impartial.

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