Why do we act all ‘shy & silly’ with guys we like?

HiResIt would probably be the secrets of the gods but I wonder,  why do women act shy (in the better sense of the word) when we meet a guy that we could end up liking?  It’s confusing, because it happens even when you have your game on in full confidence!   I’m  wonder however if there is a switch in us that lights up a ‘shy & silly’ gene in  when we suddenly realise that this could be The One!   It’s a real mystery and I guess it will remain so to us mortals here on earth.

To put things into perspective, in my well-known quest to find love, I was recently introduced to  a cutie who on the surface fits all that I would want to have in guy. He’s got real potential, in my eyes. Our encounter was arranged by a rather senior mutual friend who swears by his holy socks that he didn’t plan the whole set up, but deep down, I’m glad that he did. If you remember from my most recent post, You Wonna Know How to be Irresistible ?, guys say that they feel more comfortable meeting ladies in person and it’s even better if there’s a mutual connection. We  were  both on a smooth conversation path until our rather senior friend revealed to us individually his agenda, and I tell you, this is where things got really interesting, because you see, before he revealed his secret agenda, I was doing fine with this cutie. I was chatting away, quipping in jokes and was very carefree in my style. I mean,  we both were enjoying ourselves. But then, the moment he revealed  his intentions to us (in turns), my brain turned flabby jelly! Words suddenly failed to add up into full sentences and sentences failed to make sense! I mean I was talking but there was no ‘juice’ in the conversation whatsoever!  My mind was completely filled with how fine this guy is and the what if’s! Don’t ask why I even went there!

The surprising thing though is that he was equally nervous! He was worse than I was, so bad that the poor chap thinks that I don’t want to see him again!!  but I do want to,  if only I could remember his name :)

I think I would like him so I’m going to find a way to reconnect with him and make him feel safe enough to ask me out. In the meantime, if the ‘gods’ end up explaining why we act silly when we meet someone we could really end up liking and dare I say prematurely, fall in love with,  then please do let me and the girls know!

Wish me luck…



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