Sometimes it’s hard to know the truth or to be told the truth, but you know, there’s so much freedom in knowing what the real deal is. Which is why I buy into The Great Men Survey.
There are a couple of ways that we single chicas can choose to look at what these guys are saying; the easiest way of course is to loathe the findings and discard it. The other way is to treat this insight like you would do with any strategy that you have ever built up in your life – know the facts and develop a plan around it to achieve your goal. Hopefully that goal is to find your one and only! So these are my top four takeaways from the survey.
– nurturing is sexy!
The softer you appear, the better. It doesn’t mean being weaker or silly but nurturing him and caring for who he is, really makes you more appealing. That is not to say that he as a single guy is looking for a new mother but it appears that showing that you care for his wellbeing reassures him that you’ve really got his back.
– help him see you as marriage material
As it turns out, great men, men who mean business, do actually want to get married. Marriage is a ladies thing as much as it is a guys. Just as we like to play house, they also want to find their own patch, protect it and see it sprout into a healthy strong ‘village’. So what does this mean? You have to help him see that you’re wife material, because he’ll go through heaven and earth to get your attention and date you if he sees that in you. If he’s not pressing as he should be, I will say that he’s either not part of the 65% of men in the UK or 76% of men in the US or 75% in Australia who are out there looking for a wifee! But saying I also feel that I have to add this little word of caution, help him see you as wife material but don’t play wife or house until he puts a ring on it!
– loyalty is golden
When you’ve been through so many turns and bends in life as far as dating/relationships go, you may start feeling that loyalty is not worth the paper that its written on. And it’s normal to feel so. But if you think that he truly is the one, then help him to see you will roll with him like Bonny did with Clyde, well, in a good sense but you know what I mean?
– pay attention
Last but not the least, we single girls have a higher chance of meeting our one and only in real life situations than online! Despite my previous rave about using online dating platforms to select my possible possibilities, it turns out that most men (will second that and say men who mean business) will prefer the traditional way of meeting single chicas. In fact, a whopping 84% for guys in the UK would second that notion. For me, this means that single chicas have to be ‘date’ ready when pounding the pavements to work, riding the treadmill at the gym, picking up that dress in the shop or when walking down the long corridor onto the next meeting. It’s all about being on point all the time!
From Mandy with love