The quicker you can fit in with your colleagues in a new job, the sooner you’ll feel settled and happy.You want to get them on your side both socially and professionally – you want their respect for your work as well as a feeling you’re welcomed. So here are some great ways to achieve just that:
1. Note how they dress Ideally, you’ll be able to do this at interview. Don’t slavishly copy, and be yourself, but within that make sure you dress to fit in, in terms of style and level of smartness. They’ll unconsciously see you as one of their own.
2. Be open Of course you’ll be friendly, but be wise to more subtle strategies too, such as making sure you don’t arrange your desk so it blocks people out, and not closing your door more often than you have to. Let them see you’re approachable.
3. Offer to help This marks you out as a team player from the off. Don’t volunteer for more than you can handle (you’ve a new job to learn after all) but look for opportunities: ‘I can take that to accounts for you if you like – I’m going that way myself’.
4. Ask for advice People will be flattered you want their opinion, even just about where’s good nearby to get a lunchtime sandwich, or when is a good time to catch the boss.
5. Don’t ask for too much help You should get the training you need, and everyone will have the odd question on top of that. But don’t add to your colleagues’ workload by constantly asking for help or reassurance. Be aware of the effect your arrival is having on them.

6. Be positive Make sure you keep any negative feelings to yourself, and present your positive, can-do, upbeat side. No one is going to want a miserable, moany new colleague. And no bitching or gossip either about your last job – they’ll assume it’s only a matter of time before you talk about them in the same way.
7. Be interested Ask your teammates questions about themselves (not too personal, obviously) and show an interest in them as people. This is much more important than talking about yourself, although if they ask, be friendly and open.
8. Be respectful Obviously show personal respect – don’t be over-friendly or inappropriate. But also, don’t ask to borrow their stapler and then not return it, or move things around on their desk. And read the signs if one teammate likes to be left in peace and not chat. It’s best not to touch anyone physically other than a handshake, at least until you’ve got the hang of the norm in your team.
9. Be good at the job In a team, everyone’s life is easier when their colleagues do their jobs properly and well. So make sure you hit the ground running, and do everything in your remit to support your team and help things run smoothly. No delivering at the last minute or overlooking details.
10. Make your first work suggestion really smart It’s much better to bide your time until you come up with a great idea, however big or small. Once the team forms that first impression that you’re a bright ideas person, it will take a lot to shift it.
Richard Templar is the author of the global best-selling “The Rules of… ” series. The Rules of Work and The Rules of Management are published by Pearson, priced at £12.99, and are available from all good book stores.

December
16dec18:0021:00Sound Her Out - Networking Event | The Snug Coffee House
16/12/2025 18:00 - 21:00(GMT+00:00)
The Snug
67a Market Street Atherton M46 0DA
Join us for “Sound Her Out” a networking event bringing together women and girls from across the music industry Sound HER Out is a campaign dedicated to
Sound HER Out is a campaign dedicated to empowering women by enabling them to consider a career in the music industry by creating opportunities, addressing inequalities, and fostering a supportive community.
Join us in our journey, bringing together women and girls from across the music industry to tackle the challenges women face and explore solutions that can create lasting change.
Our industry is brimming with talent and creativity, yet we know that gender inequalities persist—whether it’s the pay gap, safety concerns, or the lack of visibility and representation for women in key roles.
Through honest conversations, collective insights, and your support, we want to spark a movement that amplifies women’s voices, opens doors, and reshapes the industry into one that values everyone equally.
Let’s make this an inspiring and empowering discussion.Thank you for joining us on this exciting journey together!
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17dec10:0013:00Women, Girls and Autism | Recovery College NHFT
17/12/2025 10:00 - 13:00(GMT+00:00)
Danetre Hospital
Daventry NN11 4EB
Women, Girls and Autism: Understanding the challenges and inspiring hope The neurotypical world that autistic people live in can be a very confusing place when you struggle
The neurotypical world that autistic people live in can be a very confusing place when you struggle to understand yourself and your difficulties.
The course aims to inspire hope by raising awareness and understanding of the female presentation of autism.
We provide a safe, open space in which to explore the reasons why women and girls with autism are underdiagnosed, how to recognise autism in females and how and why women and girls ‘mask’ in social situations.
We openly welcome service users, carers and staff to come along and learn about autism in females and gain some insight from our peer trainer, living with autism herself, and the barriers she has needed to overcome in order to feel empowered to have a voice and speak out.
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18dec09:3011:00LONDON City Ladies Networking December Meeting | City Ladies
18/12/2025 09:30 - 11:00(GMT+00:00)
DoubleTree by Hilton London
Tower of London, 7 Pepys Street London, EC3N 4AF
Join us at our December breakfast meeting in London with your favourite City Ladies You can now book onto our December City Ladies London Networking breakfast, held
You can now book onto our December City Ladies London Networking breakfast, held at the Hilton.
Organised and hosted by familiar faces Natalie Turner and co-host Julia Darlington, this session will feature our incredible spotlight, Ilse Passet.
Ilse was 4x Chief Marketing Officer and ex-Accenture and since 2016, Ilse has been helping founders grow their business even in the toughest industries and economic environments. She is also a mindset and team performance coach. Since 2016, she has helped develop high performing business owners, leaders and their teams through powerful mindset tools combined with effective practical strategies.
She is also the creator of the Uncommon Results Method™, designed to help people achieve real results even if they’ve been stuck for a while. In our December Event, Ilse will talk about “How To Grow Your Business Even When It Feels like Nothing is Working”, by showing you the 3 biggest growth blockers that even the most ambitious founders face in their journey.
So come and join us up on the fantastic rooftop bar for a light breakfast and some friendly energetic networking with like minded women.
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