People will avoid responsibility and will refer trivial decisions to their boss rather than risk being blamed for potential failure. The result is that nothing happens without the leader’s involvement. The blame culture might also make team members turn on each other to find other scapegoats for perceived failure. The end result is that internal friction interferes with performance.
As a leader, it is important to have self-knowledge and self-control before you can effectively lead others. A leader who does not know themselves, or who lacks self-control will generate a form of turbulence that makes others feel unsafe. Their behaviour will be unpredictable and uncontrolled emotions will sometimes lead to outbursts that damage relationships and leave people hurt. Often these behaviours are driven by fear, or other undefined negative emotions. Leaders who lack self-control, often blame or find it hard to trust others and might tend towards micro-management.
If you know yourself well, you will understand what drives you. You will be able to harness the strengths that brings, and be able to control the potential down-side of your personality. So, for example, if you know that you prefer to be task focussed then you might choose to work harder to consider the interests and feelings of people in your decision making. Whatever you are like, understanding yourself and making use of that knowledge will make you a more effective leader. Being able to understand others in the same way will help you to connect with them and get the best from them. This will turn a culture of blame at work into a culture of inclusion and high performance.
Another important factor to consider is that positive behaviour will lead to positive results. So, at the basic level, being kind, decent, patient and caring will help develop strong and supportive relationships. If the leader gives people freedom and resists the temptation to meddle, then a feeling of engagement, trust and empowerment is likely to develop. The team will work in a way that requires little management. They will think, create ideas and make decisions. All of this helps the leader become more effective as they are free to lead, rather than managing the detail.
Other positive behaviour would include communicating openly and honestly, involving people in thinking and developing ideas and just behaving decently and kindly: no doubt you can think of many more, all of which help build a positive atmosphere. The way the leader behaves has a very direct impact on the culture and performance of the team that they lead.
Positive leadership behaviours bring out the best in the team. They reassure, empower, and energise. Negative leadership behaviours like attaching blame to mistakes stifle and supress, making the team less effective. Understanding the positive or negative effect your leadership can have on a team will enable you to be the best version of yourself and motivate your team to perform at their best.
Neil Jurd OBE is the author of The Leadership Book (priced at £15.99 and available on Amazon.co.uk) and founder of skills platform LeaderConnect. Find out more: www.leader-connect.co.uk.
October
04oct12:0014:00Empowered Awakening: A Healing & Well-being Workshop
04/10/2025 12:00 - 14:00(GMT+01:00)
The Conduit
6 Langley Street London WC2H 9JA
A soulful healing session for Black & Brown women — with movement, storytelling, and optional guided hypnotherapy. Empowered Awakening is a soulful gathering created for Black & Brown women — leaders,
Empowered Awakening is a soulful gathering created for Black & Brown women — leaders, professionals, and creatives — to connect, share, and step fully into their power.An afternoon of movement, storytelling, reflection, and optional guided hypnotherapy, it offers space to feel rooted, restored, and uplifted in community with women who see and celebrate you.
Curated by Vision Liberate, a grassroots, woman-led social enterprise, this experience weaves together healing practices, creative expression, and collective reflection — with a focus on emotional well-being, cultural affirmation, and sisterhood.
Hosted at The Conduit, Covent Garden, this intimate gathering unfolds in a beautiful, welcoming space. Come solo, with a friend, or as part of your own journey of healing and empowerment.
Guided Movement & Creative Expression — No dance experience needed; simply bring your body and breath. Group Storytelling & Reflection Circles — Explore rest, identity, and renewal through writing, sharing, or simply listening. Optional 30-Minute Guided Hypnotherapy — A gentle practice using breathwork, mindfulness, and light trance to ease emotional tension. (You’re welcome to observe, rest, or step outside if you prefer.) Social wind-down with refreshments — Close the afternoon with soft music, light bites, and time to connect.
Spaces are limited to 20 guests to preserve intimacy and care — early booking is strongly encouraged.
Created for Black & Brown women seeking space to reconnect with themselves and others. While this gathering centres our voices, the ethos of Empowered Awakening is rooted in care, cultural safety, and collective healing for all marginalised communities.
13/10/2025 - 17/10/2025 (All Day)(GMT+00:00)
The ground-breaking nationwide celebration of women in technology returns, featuring a week of dynamic online and
The ground-breaking nationwide celebration of women in technology returns, featuring a week of dynamic online and in-person events. Focused on career growth, networking, and innovation, this event continues to champion equality and empower women in the tech industry.
WeAreTechWomen is proud to present the second annual UK Women in Tech Week, taking place from October 13th to 17th, once again aligning with Ada Lovelace Day. This nationwide initiative brings together a vibrant line-up of virtual and in-person events celebrating the impact of women across the tech industry.
In partnership with leading organisations and Women in Tech networks, the week will offer inspiring panels, practical workshops, and meaningful networking opportunities. Through our website, attendees can easily book their spots for these events. Our master calendar for bookings will be released in the summer. Those who have registered their interest will receive priority booking.
Despite growing awareness, the sector still faces systemic challenges. Our upcoming Lovelace Report with Oliver Wyman has highlighted a number of issues around the broken systems that hinder the progression of women in the tech industry. Several reports over the past few years, including the Lovelace Report, cite that women are leaving the industry altogether. This talent drain is not only a loss of potential but is actively costing the UK economy billions of pounds each year.
With just 20% of the UK’s tech workforce made up of women—and with government commitments to scale the AI workforce—this is not the time to slow down. It’s time to step up.
For more information visit: women-in-tech-week.com
01nov09:0016:30KIN: Know. Inspire. Navigate | A Day for Women to Realign, Renew, and Rise
01/11/2025 09:00 - 16:30(GMT+00:00)
Henley Business School, Greenlands
Henley-on-Thames, RG9 3AU
Set on the tranquil banks of the River Thames, Henley’s historic Greenlands campus offers the perfect backdrop for a day of reflection, connection, and
Designed for early to mid-career women across industries who want practical tools they can use immediately, this one-day retreat follows the Kinspace KIN framework – Know, Inspire, Navigate – guiding you to:
This is not just a feel-good day. It’s sustainable learning – you will leave with your own action and implementation plan tailored to your life, so you can apply what you’ve learned immediately and keep building momentum long after the retreat.
In the afternoon, slow down and reconnect with your senses in a mindful pressed flower card crafting, writing to self and picture workshop. We’ll ask a few questions ahead of time so we can pair you by goals and stage, and tailor examples to your context. Then, step outdoors for a unique partner reflection in nature – partnering with both the landscape and each other to inspire deeper insight and grounded action.
To help you stay accountable and supported, you’ll have the option to join three monthly follow-up group sessions (at a separate price) designed to check in on your progress, troubleshoot challenges, and keep you moving towards your goals.
This is a confidential and supportive space with limited seats to ensure meaningful connection and participation.
Date: Saturday 1 November 2025
Time: 9:00 AM -4:30 PMT
Location: Henley Business School, Greenlands Henley-on-Thames
RG9 3AU
Price: £250 – Early Bird £200 until 10 September