Article by Abi Adamson, Founder & DEI Director of The Diversity Partnership (TDP)
Well, in my opinion, it means challenging one’s mindset from what we’ve come to know as “the way things have always been done”. It’s about leaders taking issue with what they think to be true and expanding this view.
In the Diversity and Inclusion (D&I) space arguably one of the biggest issue is in trying to navigate a new world with knowledge gained from outdated and backward-looking lessons. In the workplace for example, failure to diverge perspective, to discourage new thinking and to praise compliance makes for a working environment that does not serve the interests of equality. Closing the mind to different ideas and approaches is a dangerous thing for anyone, but no more so than for the leaders in our organisations.
There’s no question that the way things have always been done does not align with current culture and the needs of businesses in today’s world. And the failure to admit, or recognise that, is a risk. Not just for organisations, but also on the drive to bring down the discrimination that has long plagued our societies.
The truth is, social justice cannot be achieved without unlearning racial prejudice, and gender equality cannot be embraced without unlearning gender stereotypes. It’s important to acknowledge that it is hard to take a step back, to let go of what we hold true. No more so for long-standing leaders who radiate the toxicity of assuredness.
Founding Partner of Within People, Laurie Bennett writes, “If there’s anything that gets the proverbial goat, it’s being asked to unlearn something you hold to be true. If you don’t believe me, ask Darwin, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., the people involved in the Middle East Peace Process, #MeToo, a non-binary friend.”
I believe that it’s time for leaders to address toxic lessons. Here are five things they can unlearn today:
Many employers have long silenced their employees on matters of pay. There are a number of reasons companies keep salaries private. However, experience has taught that it’s often because someone has something to hide. The benefits of pay transparency are plentiful; a company is more likely to attract new talent and improve retention, it will increase trust among teams and between the employer and employee, and, most importantly, it will help address gender, ethnicity and any other D&I characteristic pay gap.
According to the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development, nearly 80% of the gender pay gap, across a sample of 16 member countries, can be attributed to wage inequity within firms. Pay transparency will help expose those employers who are discriminating and underpaying.
Study after study has found that authentic leaders (or those that are perceived to be) have a positive impact on both their employees and their organisation’s bottom-line. Although the portrait of a great leader looks a little different to each of us, authenticity and autonomy are recurring characteristics for most. In fact, theoretical research strongly establishes the hypothesis that authentic leadership will have positive effects on employees’ hedonic well-being. Disguising emotion, no matter what the cause, hampers a leader’s ability to build trust amongst their colleagues. The danger is that employees then mirror this behaviour. They learn that the way to lead is to hide one’s true self.
As a leader, let them see you sweat. If someone at the height of power cannot show vulnerability, they will fail to connect with their workforce. There is common ground amongst us all – we are all human.
Tackling diversity is not about fixing a number, it is about changing a culture. Which means, those companies that take a tick-box approach by focusing on aspects like quotas, risk building more inequalities. Quotas help companies appear to change, in comparison to genuinely wanting to change. Don’t fall victim to the pressure of change. Ill-considered strategies are praying into the hands of tokenism.
No one likes confrontation. However, sometimes confrontation has an important role to play in creating psychologically safe environments. Ensuring employees know how to confront harm when it is happening is essential to protecting vulnerable people in the workplace. Arming employees with timely expressions and intentional language will contribute to a culture of inclusion and belonging.
Visible leadership is incredibly important. But it is about more than simply being seen in the workplace. Leaders must demonstrate that they are as committed as they are asking their employees to be and they must open themselves up to feedback. A leader that portrays themselves as untouchable will lead to an untrusting and disengaged workforce.
Today, there are many leaders doing an awesome job of promoting unlearning. They are disputing long-standing fables that lead to stagnation on the agendas that matter the most. The truth is, a culture which challenges perspectives is healthy for everyone. It’s time to square up to age-old lessons and open the mind to new ways of thinking.
October
13/10/2025 - 17/10/2025 (All Day)(GMT+00:00)
The ground-breaking nationwide celebration of women in technology returns, featuring a week of dynamic online and
The ground-breaking nationwide celebration of women in technology returns, featuring a week of dynamic online and in-person events. Focused on career growth, networking, and innovation, this event continues to champion equality and empower women in the tech industry.
WeAreTechWomen is proud to present the second annual UK Women in Tech Week, taking place from October 13th to 17th, once again aligning with Ada Lovelace Day. This nationwide initiative brings together a vibrant line-up of virtual and in-person events celebrating the impact of women across the tech industry.
In partnership with leading organisations and Women in Tech networks, the week will offer inspiring panels, practical workshops, and meaningful networking opportunities. Through our website, attendees can easily book their spots for these events. Our master calendar for bookings will be released in the summer. Those who have registered their interest will receive priority booking.
Despite growing awareness, the sector still faces systemic challenges. Our upcoming Lovelace Report with Oliver Wyman has highlighted a number of issues around the broken systems that hinder the progression of women in the tech industry. Several reports over the past few years, including the Lovelace Report, cite that women are leaving the industry altogether. This talent drain is not only a loss of potential but is actively costing the UK economy billions of pounds each year.
With just 20% of the UK’s tech workforce made up of women—and with government commitments to scale the AI workforce—this is not the time to slow down. It’s time to step up.
For more information visit: women-in-tech-week.com
01nov09:0016:30KIN: Know. Inspire. Navigate | A Day for Women to Realign, Renew, and Rise
01/11/2025 09:00 - 16:30(GMT+00:00)
Henley Business School, Greenlands
Henley-on-Thames, RG9 3AU
Set on the tranquil banks of the River Thames, Henley’s historic Greenlands campus offers the perfect backdrop for a day of reflection, connection, and
Designed for early to mid-career women across industries who want practical tools they can use immediately, this one-day retreat follows the Kinspace KIN framework – Know, Inspire, Navigate – guiding you to:
This is not just a feel-good day. It’s sustainable learning – you will leave with your own action and implementation plan tailored to your life, so you can apply what you’ve learned immediately and keep building momentum long after the retreat.
In the afternoon, slow down and reconnect with your senses in a mindful pressed flower card crafting, writing to self and picture workshop. We’ll ask a few questions ahead of time so we can pair you by goals and stage, and tailor examples to your context. Then, step outdoors for a unique partner reflection in nature – partnering with both the landscape and each other to inspire deeper insight and grounded action.
To help you stay accountable and supported, you’ll have the option to join three monthly follow-up group sessions (at a separate price) designed to check in on your progress, troubleshoot challenges, and keep you moving towards your goals.
This is a confidential and supportive space with limited seats to ensure meaningful connection and participation.
Date: Saturday 1 November 2025
Time: 9:00 AM -4:30 PMT
Location: Henley Business School, Greenlands Henley-on-Thames
RG9 3AU
Price: £250 – Early Bird £200 until 10 September