By Emma Gross, employment partner at city law firm Spencer West
It is possible to have a personal life online whilst also making the right impression on the people you work with.
Connecting with your boss and your co-workers online can help you build rapport, deepen your offline relationships and separate you from your colleagues. However, you need to take steps to manage your online presence in order to remain appropriate at all times.
You must be aware of what level of sharing, and what content is appropriate. From political differences to religious beliefs and mutual connections; the information you put into the public domain can lead to discrimination and harassment or create awkwardness or tension at work.
One of the great things about most social media platforms is that they do have fairly detailed privacy settings that you can adjust, both for how others represent you online, but also for how individual connections see your content.
Facebook allows you to set custom privacy settings so that not all friends can see the same level of information about you. You can also adjust your privacy settings so that you need to approve what photos and statuses friends tag you in before they can appear on your timeline.
Instagram also offers some control, and you can limit what people are able to see by giving selected followers access to only your grid posts rather than your stories. Make sure you read up on all the settings available to you so that you can make the most of them.
As well as giving approval to posts that friends might tag you in, it is worth going back through old content that you have shared and cleaning up anything that doesn’t represent who you are or how you would like to be perceived.
Your social profile tells a story of your life so not posting at all isn’t necessarily the answer but being thoughtful about what you share is always sensible. I recently came across the phrase “Google before you Tweet is the new Think before you Speak” and I think that is sound advice to take. It only takes one controversial post or inappropriate picture for you to become the subject of workplace gossip, or even disciplinary or legal action in extreme circumstances.
If your boss follows you on social media, make the most of your new connection and post things which highlight your interests and pursuits outside of work that you are proud of. Show off your personality, especially if you take part in any positive social action, volunteering or other community work. It’s a very attractive quality to have an active life outside of work.
Your profiles are an opportunity to highlight your skills, interests, and network, along with the fact that you’re savvy with social media. If you are capable of creating dynamic content and interesting stories that generate high levels of engagement, that can be of great value to an employer.
Once your boss or your colleagues are following you, you might as well make the most of that more personal connection both online and in person. Interact with the content they post, pay attention to what is important to them, and use it to strike up engaging conversations in the workplace. Refrain from getting too personal, or doing it too often, but acknowledging their holiday photo, or asking how they enjoyed a restaurant they posted about can build a stronger relationship.
If at the end of the day you are someone who is a little more private, and your boss following you makes you feel uncomfortable, politely but clearly explain that you like to keep your social media for family and friends. You could offer to connect on a professional network such as LinkedIn. It is perfectly acceptable to want to keep social media and work separate.
Whatever you decide to do, try not to leave a friend request hanging around with no explanation. Be polite and explain your reasons to make sure your boss understands them. Ultimately, it’s your profile, and your choice.
Emma was admitted as a solicitor in 2012 having graduated from the University of Birmingham and completed her LPC at the London College of Law. Emma headed up the Employment Department at her previous Marylebone firm before joining Spencer West. Keenly commercial, she has handled complex employment tribunal cases, negotiated difficult settlements and advised on fair and reasonable redundancy procedures. Emma also advises on all aspects of data protection and GDPR compliance.
Before training as a solicitor Emma spent two years working in Human Resources at a prominent charity in London. This valuable experience enables her to provide legal advice from an informed business perspective when advising and assisting both employers and employees.
Outside work Emma enjoys comedy, theatre and musicals and the occasional glass of red wine!
October
13/10/2025 - 17/10/2025 (All Day)(GMT+00:00)
The ground-breaking nationwide celebration of women in technology returns, featuring a week of dynamic online and
The ground-breaking nationwide celebration of women in technology returns, featuring a week of dynamic online and in-person events. Focused on career growth, networking, and innovation, this event continues to champion equality and empower women in the tech industry.
WeAreTechWomen is proud to present the second annual UK Women in Tech Week, taking place from October 13th to 17th, once again aligning with Ada Lovelace Day. This nationwide initiative brings together a vibrant line-up of virtual and in-person events celebrating the impact of women across the tech industry.
In partnership with leading organisations and Women in Tech networks, the week will offer inspiring panels, practical workshops, and meaningful networking opportunities. Through our website, attendees can easily book their spots for these events. Our master calendar for bookings will be released in the summer. Those who have registered their interest will receive priority booking.
Despite growing awareness, the sector still faces systemic challenges. Our upcoming Lovelace Report with Oliver Wyman has highlighted a number of issues around the broken systems that hinder the progression of women in the tech industry. Several reports over the past few years, including the Lovelace Report, cite that women are leaving the industry altogether. This talent drain is not only a loss of potential but is actively costing the UK economy billions of pounds each year.
With just 20% of the UK’s tech workforce made up of women—and with government commitments to scale the AI workforce—this is not the time to slow down. It’s time to step up.
For more information visit: women-in-tech-week.com
01nov09:0016:30KIN: Know. Inspire. Navigate | A Day for Women to Realign, Renew, and Rise
01/11/2025 09:00 - 16:30(GMT+00:00)
Henley Business School, Greenlands
Henley-on-Thames, RG9 3AU
Set on the tranquil banks of the River Thames, Henley’s historic Greenlands campus offers the perfect backdrop for a day of reflection, connection, and
Designed for early to mid-career women across industries who want practical tools they can use immediately, this one-day retreat follows the Kinspace KIN framework – Know, Inspire, Navigate – guiding you to:
This is not just a feel-good day. It’s sustainable learning – you will leave with your own action and implementation plan tailored to your life, so you can apply what you’ve learned immediately and keep building momentum long after the retreat.
In the afternoon, slow down and reconnect with your senses in a mindful pressed flower card crafting, writing to self and picture workshop. We’ll ask a few questions ahead of time so we can pair you by goals and stage, and tailor examples to your context. Then, step outdoors for a unique partner reflection in nature – partnering with both the landscape and each other to inspire deeper insight and grounded action.
To help you stay accountable and supported, you’ll have the option to join three monthly follow-up group sessions (at a separate price) designed to check in on your progress, troubleshoot challenges, and keep you moving towards your goals.
This is a confidential and supportive space with limited seats to ensure meaningful connection and participation.
Date: Saturday 1 November 2025
Time: 9:00 AM -4:30 PMT
Location: Henley Business School, Greenlands Henley-on-Thames
RG9 3AU
Price: £250 – Early Bird £200 until 10 September